I am sure that many people have discovered that their beliefs and other ways of thinking are causing most if not all their problems. Yet do we know which beliefs we have that we do not even realize we are being limited by?
I started out this post wanting to write about other people’s belief that I see that are limiting them, but as I often do I looked back at myself first to see where I was blinded to something. I am sure that the people who know me best will tell me that there are many beliefs that I have that are limiting me and they sometimes even tell me what they perceive them to be.
I am sure there are beliefs I have that limit me. One question that comes to my mind is not IF I have limiting beliefs but does it matter to me if I have limiting beliefs.
The answer for me is both yes and no. I do care about myself and the quality of my life, so I do want to know if I am limiting myself in some form or other. Yet, I recognize that if I obsess about any beliefs that I have that might be limiting me, my obsession is itself limiting the quality of my life experience.
One thing I know is that I want to be open to hearing what anyone says that might be causing me some sort of trouble. I wish more people cared enough about others, or at least me, to point out what they think is a limiting belief. I can take what they say and use it any way that I want or I can disregard it completely, but if they do not at least offer it I do not have that option.
Which is why I do unto others as I would want them to do unto me: I offer my opinions and perspectives so that they can take it or leave it.
I do recognize that many if not most people will not want to hear what I have to offer, and that saddens me, for I offer it with love, kindness and caring. Yet their hearts are not open to it. I offer it none the less and that does not make me the most popular person in the world. I accept this as the price I have to pay for being true to myself.
Is that an unholy/unhealthy belief in itself? Would my life be better if I did not feel such a strong need to be true to myself or others? If I was less honest with people would I not have more friends? And would having more friends not add to the quality of my life?
Ok, so I can answer most of those questions because I have spent the time to really look at those questions and I no longer have doubts about them.
What is the point of this blog post? We all have unholy/unhealthy or limiting beliefs, even we Buddhas and Christs. Some of us are open to seeing that limiting beliefs and some of us see the advantage of having a team of people help us find them. And then some of us are not open to seeing those limiting beliefs. The latter will not appreciate me and I guess you can say that they are not of my ‘tribe’ or family.
I love feedback from people and I love to be around people who love to both give and receive feedback.