This story is a perfect example of how a person’s identification with someone or something has limited their love. Before Sen. Portman realized that someone HE KNEW and loved was gay he was very anti gay marriage. But as soon as he realized that someone he knew was gay and that sooner or later he would want the same things that the senator wanted, the senator opened his heart and changed his mind to support gay marriage.
If the senator had opened his heart to ALL BEINGS then he would have felt the same desire that he has within them, which is the desire to marry the person of his or her choice.
Sen. Portman identified with HIS family but could really care less with people of other families. He opposed gay marriage because he did not care about the desires of people he did not identify with. His son’s coming out to him caused him to re-examine his ways of thinking and change his perspective.
To me, this is an example of the biblical concept of removing the heart of stone (the heart of the conservative) and replacing it with a heart of flesh (the heart of the liberal). [Ezekiel 36:26]
We can see this same thing happening with former Vice-President Cheney, who discovered that his daughter was gay and she wanted to marry her girlfriend. Because of this Cheney opened his heart and is now pro gay marriage just as Portman.
The point is that our habit of identifying with this or that person, including our own ‘self’ is part of the process of closing ourselves off to or limiting love.
By identify as Spirit one sees themselves as one with ALL beings and the heart become open and we can feel the pain and desires of all beings. Being one with them you want for them what you want for your Self, which now includes them.
This is what Unconditional Love is and does, it opens you up to the pain and desires of all beings, not just your ‘loved ones’.