Mindful Relating

Last night I went to the Trident Philosophy Group where the topic of discussion was about “What is Love?” We had a great discussion and I had forgotten what it was like to be around people who have the capacity […]

Being Tolerated

I guess I have come to accept that not only will I never be appreciated in life, but that I will probably never be TOLERATED by anyone.  This is sad to me but understandable. The book I am writing, Mindful […]

Rejection

Why does rejection hurt so much?  Why do people reject one another? Yesterday I had someone I wanted to stay connected with unfriend me on Facebook and it was painful.  Intellectually I recognize that this person did this to protect himself; […]

Is There a Downside to Cuddling?

I often go to T-Group, a weekly sensitivity or authentic relating practice group.  The idea behind T-Group is to talk about your feelings and in so doing you become aware of your deeper desires or motivation behind our actions, then […]

Healthy Boundaries

The human being is a limited being, it has boundaries. It cannot go indefinitely without rest, water, food, shelter and the like. There are also many boundaries that we must have in order to have any quality of life. Sometimes […]

CNN Encourages Emotional Abuse

The CNN article “Should we celebrate Fred Phelps’ death?” shows a good example of someone who is pointing out to Americans just how programmed they are. “(CNN) – He was a preacher best known for his virulent anti-gay rhetoric, the force behind […]

Identification Ends Love

CNN Exclusive: One conservative’s dramatic reversal on gay marriage – CNN.com. This story is a perfect example of how a person’s identification with someone or something has limited their love.  Before Sen. Portman realized that someone HE KNEW and loved was […]

What is Love? How to Love?

On a search of Google adwords I find that those two topics each get 185 MILLION searches a month. I realized yesterday that those two questions are what I started looking for answers to thirty years ago.  I realize now […]

Unholy Beliefs

I am sure that many people have discovered that their beliefs and other ways of thinking are causing most if not all their problems.  Yet do we know which beliefs we have that we do not even realize we are […]

Loving Bullies

I love bullies, and that is why bullies have no power over me. Bullies are people who have learned how to bully by being bullied; they are hurting too.  What they seem to want is for others to hurt as […]